Today, I am cheating and taking a question from the book...
Would you have been able to forgive Mark for his deception? Do you feel like Abby's response was appropriate? Would you have gone harder on Mark or easier on him if faced with a similar circumstance?
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I need to put some more thought (and maybe some re-reading) into my response, but I was dying when it took so long for Abby to forgive him. My thought during that time was 'what happens if he dies before she gets over this being mad?' I was almost panicked about it so I think that I can honestly say that I would have forgiven him faster....
*ack* sorry...I forgot to check so that I get the other comments...
Good question. I'm not really sure. I have some trust issues when it comes to men, so I probably would have been pretty upset. On the other hand, I can see why he did it. Once I found out that he was telling the truth about being sick, I'm pretty sure I'd have forgiven him quickly and done everything possible to find him. I do think Abby was amazingly resilient, once she decided that he was worth the emotional wringer he'd put her through.
I defintely would have forgiven him sooner! What if he had died? she would have never forgiven herself for not forgiving him.
Kristy xx
Under the circumstances, I think her response was to be expected. Had she forgiven him sooner, I don't think I would have been as emotionally hooked~and I don't think the ending would have been as dramatic if she hadn't gone through all of that angst first. I liked watching her realize the depth of her own feelings. In fact, had she forgiven him sooner, I think it would have been hard for me to believe that she loved him~it would have all been wrapped up too nicely in a pretty box, kwim?
I agree, I think she needed to work through her own feelings first. While, yes I was also thinking by the time she gets through this he could be gone already, that's I think more true to life than if she had forgiven him right away.
I'm the WORST when it comes to forgiveness! It's one of my fatal character flaws. I have really bad trust issues and if it had been me, I might have gone on much longer before coming to the realization that while I stewed, this person might die. I get pretty wrapped up in anger and betrayal.
That being said, I think she did go through it for the correct amount of time. She worked through her feelings well and finally the answered settled in her heart. Though, I did keep thinking to myself "Quick, forgive him before it's too late!"
And I forgot to check the box.
Yes, I would have been able to forgive Mark...
I do think Abby's response was appropriate... feeling as if the entire relationship was a lie and /or based on a lie... that would take some time to forgive.
I would have done the same things she did... and eventually come to the realization that his motives were not to intentionally hurt her. I was also worrying that she wouldn't catch him in time...
I can understand why Mark did what he did, hiding his illness, because I can appreciate him not wanting to dwell on it since the whole reason he was on Twitter so much was to forget about what he was dealing with. So yeah, I would have forgiven him for leaving that part out, but I can see why Abby was so upset about it. I think her family history with her father's death and dealing with her mother's dementia affected the way she reacted to Mark's revelation about his illness because she already kind of had abandonment issues, and now she's afraid he's going to die and leave her too. I'm still glad that she decided that he was worth finding in person :)
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